Crush From The Past

I’ve had a crush on and been friends/aquaitences with this boy who was in one of my classes junior year of high school. Senior year we saw eachother in the halls and at church several times a week and we always just smiled, waved and said hey what’s up each time. Well now we are freshman at different colleges and we both happened to run into eachother at our High school’s homecoming game. He came over while talking on his cellphone, and gave me a side/frontish hug. We both said our usual hey how’s it going thing and then he went on his way. He has never hugged me before ever. Does this mean there is hope haha? Should I strike up conversation via Facebook private messaging and eventually try to lead it to having lunch together the next weekend we are both in town? I have no boy experience, advice is helpful!

Hi There,

Well it certainly can’t hurt to try! You both seem to be on friendly terms with each other, however there obviously isn’t anything overly strong just yet.

Strike up a convosation! See where it goes, get talking a bit more and then ask him out to lunch, coffe, whatever, just make sure that you keep it casual and on a friendly bases to start with. Once you start to know each other a bit more, who knows where it will end up going!

If you have any further questions or need any advice, feel free to contact me!

Best of luck!

How Long Is Long Enough!?

“Last week, I kissed another boy when I was on a school trip. It was a stupid thing to do and I’ve never regretted something so much in all my life. As soon as I got back from the trip, I told my boyfriend (now ex) that we needed space and then later, I told him the whole truth.
Obviously, he got angry and it didn’t end too well.
Our relationship did have it’s ups and downs and I was very paranoid and untrustworthy of him, for several reasons. But he was my best friend and we were together for nearly 2 years. The only reason I kissed this guy was because he was nice to me and he made me feel wanted :/

But, as I said, kissing someone else was the worst mistake of my life, and all I want is him. I understand that I’ve hurt him and that I deserve all the hurt I’m getting.

Do you think he’ll ever take me back?
How long do you think I should leave it before we can talk again?
(I haven’t spoken to him in 4 days)”

Hmmm, Okay. This is a tricky one. I have to ask though, why did you not feel wanted in the first place? Shouldn’t you feel wanted by your boyfriend? If you hooked up with another guy because he was nice to you, that is also going to be playing on your boyfriends mind (ei. Will she hook up with every guy that is nice to her?)

This is my advice. DO NOT CONTACT HIM. Let him contact you. If he wants to speak to you he will. Simple. Obviously trust have been broken, and whilst it can be fixed, it’s going to take a while to get it back to where it was before you kissed the other guy.

I’ve been in a similar situation before where my girlfriend at the time hooked up with another guy whilst in a relationship with me. Naturally I was angry, and I stopped talking to her for a bit, after a while though, I realized that she meants more to me than one stupid mistake.

Give him time and if you mean as much to him as you think you do, he will come back.

Hopefully giving him enough time and space will make him realize that you are worth staying in a relationship with and not worth losing over 1 stupid mistake.

If you need any more help or want to let me know how things ended up feel free to send me a message/e-mail!

Good Luck!

Let's Kick Things Off!

Hi guys and girls and welcome to my little blog ‘Advice for the heart’

If you missed the ‘About Me’ section I’ll be answering any questions and giving advice to any of you that are having problems with anything from getting over someone/dealing with heartbreak, getting the girl/guy of your dreams or even relationship advice!

Anything that has to do with love and any of the other emotions that come from it I’ll be here to guide, advise and answer anything that is needed.

First post will be up later on today. If you have any questions or anything else you would like to leave advice on, please feel free to ask, you can even do it anonymously if you wish!

Hopefully I am able to help a few of you out!

Hope to hear from you all very soon!